I had a session with a new client, and this theme can be applied cross contextually. You see if we have a list of things that are non-negotiables like attracting the right partner, we too need to be fulfilling this list.
So if you want to be with a healthy, person and you have health challenges, then what will you attract? Even more importantly if you want a relationship yet hold back once you are in them what is the real message you are sending out?
Congruency is the key, be the person you want to attract, in all aspects if you want to find a wo/man who displays these traits yet you self sabotage, there are no surprises of who you will attract. See this as a mirror reflection of you.
It took me YEARS to figure this out, I was always infatuated with the wrong types and wondered what I did wrong. Obviously they were non-available and didn't possess all of my non-negotiables on my list, I was blind to the fact that I was getting the physical and this is my dominant love language , at the expense of everything else!
That is why they call it a LIST, it has more than one item on it, wow funny how I saw things back then.
So when you have a criteria then stick to it, live your life authentically and in your tune, sooner than later, you will attract another person vibrating at the same level.
Then watch magic happens!
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That's a really interesting post and a very simple description of a very serious point. I observe this pattern too in my own clients, that the things they want from another, they do not mirror in their own lives. If they manage to get together with someone who has these attributes or qualities, the cracks appear fairly quickly and the relationship tends to fade out.
Thanks, Dan.
Good observation Dan, many things can be seen very simply. It all stems from self relationship. You get the learnings and move on.
We see this in many of our clients at Click A Life Coach and this simplistic approach facilitates many breakthroughs.
"Be the person you want to attract"?
This is the opposite of congruent.
Yes, if someone is attracting people they dislike, then look to yourself to see what you are drawing towards you.
But don't base who you are on who you want to attract. That's very odd. Just work on being more who you "really" are.
That's all. Then, the mirrors change.
thanks anoymous, yes its important to be authentic, be your own self first, and not change pending who you want to be with. However saying this, we all need to clean up our own stuff first, as this too transfers to the next relationship and perhaps patterns form.
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