Your Expectations

I remember a time when I placed key people in my life on a pedestal. My boss, his boss, some work colleagues even my mentors. They possessed a 'god-like' status as far as I was concerned. To be listened to, respected and whatever they said to be 'true'. I was even nervous when I was in their presence as my hands became clammy with sweat.

That was about 3 years ago, I gave them these sub-human powers and in my mind and body I reacted a certain way. I know many people today who still do this to some extent. We minimised ourselves so they could shine.

Well I learnt my lesson and stepped into my own power, and gee did that feel good! I was more confident and listened to my own internal voice and intuition. They still had an opinion and so did I, by claiming back my own power they didn't possess the same hold on me. I allowed myself to see them at the same level as other people. Still with empathy and respect, however now at my earthy level. They too are human and make mistakes, how refreshing was that revelation!

So what are your expectations of others? Do you:

• Expect others to be perfect


• Expect flawless 100% accuracy every time


• Re do work if it does not meet your standard


• Criticise more than you praise


• See what is missing and not what they have achieved


• Running out of time each day to finish your 'to do list'


• Control others as you seek perfection

Something to ponder I guess, if you do display any of the above have a good think about your intentions and what you really want?

High expectations are good, as long as they are realistic and flexible. People do make mistakes and they do go off the rails from time to time. This builds strength and knowledge, so learn to have empathy and behavioural flexibility.