Fear-LESS

Imagine if you had no more fears? You took life by the 'cojones' (as I say) and you just lived to your full potential! Just simply imagine how life would look like, what your experiences would be like, full of energy, not holding back and being your authentic self!

Well I come across people like this, In fact I am coaching a few dynamos at the moment who are living to their purpose, their mission and being as organic and authentic as possible.

They inspire me to be 'true to myself' as they create their day to fulfill their purpose being their own compass as their values help them navigate through the hurdles of life. Being REAL is just natural for them. They have had enough life experience to know that they are now doing it for themselves and those they love.

When you get it, it is simple, no more hesitations or procrastination, just action, focus perservence and breakthroughs. One day at a time.

When you stay focused in the present you are living in the NOW, and thus get as much as you need in that moment so you can continue on your path. Living in the past of future can be reflective/fun but you are simply wasting your now!

Having your NOW and being fearless gives you personal power to keep yourself charged for lifes'challenges, you are ready and prepared!

Cause and Effect

Speaking to a client this am about patterns in her life, it was interesting to learn that she equated experiences she had gone through with her current state.

It goes to show that there is a cause and effect with our learnings and also with how we see the world. Patterns form in our lives and when you can see them and understand their underlying energies we can gain greater awarness and understanding.

Then it is a question of asking ourselves "Does this serve me today?" and if it does not then we can go about changing our patterns of behaviour. We can all do with de-cluttering our thoughts and questioning the actions that they impose.

One great way of doing this is writing it down in a journal, being objective honest and spilling our thoughts, then learning from the patterns and either integrating the good habits or letting the unconstructive ones dissapate into the air!

Why carry extra luggage just because it is our past? Doesn't mean you erase that memory it is just putting into perspective and then letting it go! go! GO!

If you would like to work on this you can also sign up as a member and an accredited Coach will be able to walk you to a greater understanding.

After all if dominos just fall because of their position, imagine how you will feel once you have cleared some cob-webs from your past!

Abundance Mentality

How does one practise an abundance mentality? Wow what a great question. If you feel that there are finite resources and one day they will run out, then this is not abundance but scarcity.

Take the natural energy resources issue, many people are in panic buying because they fear it will run out. Others feel that other energies more renewable and sustainable will be available to take over the power source. This is seeing the world as abundant and giving us what we need. Same goes for our limiting beliefs, especially around money, health, relationships.

I have had many clients that stay in their current unhappy relationship because they fear there are not enough good potential partners. Also those people that cap themselves in their 9-5 jobs feeling that that is their worth as an employee, X per hour. In fact we are all very resourceful and have great skills to get going, just look at people who have lived through bankrupcy, they pick themselves up and build their wealth from scratch.

They can do this because they have done it before and they know the way, they believe in abundance and in themselves to achieve it. It is that simple.

So if you find yourself looking at your empty wallet, get creative and find ways of filling it up!

Play-Time

We all have the inner-child in us, the question is do we let it come out from time to time? I know many adults that have a great sense of inner-child, they access this on a daily basis. Being silly and enjoying a laugh, creates such a relaxed atmosphere that you automatically feel at ease.

I also know adults that hardly ever smile. Their work place is sterile and they get to work in a zombie-like state. They become other people at work and there is no sense of fun in that office!

I understand it depends on the culture of the organisation and what they value, perhaps being relaxed and connecting with other employees is not conducive to productivity and the company image.

However if people can have some 'play-time' this will help them become more creative and build more loyality in the organisation. Just take a look at Google for example.

Being yourself is sometimes not realistic at work, as we need to conform to the norms and the expectations of 'good employees' . Yet in my mind cultivating the fun-side will make your teams more effective at work in the long run.

It is a great tension/stress release being able to laugh about it or have an understanding that we can all let down our guard from time to time.

Try it and see!

Time to Celebrate!

When we have met our expectations or achieved a goal, then it is time to celebrate. If you dismiss it and brush it off, you are sending mixed signals and your body may not feel like going the extra mile next time. So are some tips on integrating this feeling into your body and mind:

1) Tell someone about your accomplisments, even write it down on your journal! How does this feel?

2) Acknowledge your achievement and bathe in those feelings of having it completed, feel satisfied, happy, joyful. Reflect on this for a while for your feelings to sink in.

3) Look at your budget and treat yourself. Dinner out, a glass of champagne, a new item/clothes/shoes. Out to the movies, a holiday. Or even a night in with music and a bubble bath whatever you can afford, to anchor in this wonderful achievement!

4) This success builds success so you will be motivated for your next goal as you now have a history of being there and doing it!

5) Building on good habits sets a good example to others: children, work colleagues, parents etc, gives them permission to do the same!

Celebration is infectious, so remember to share your positive experience!

Nutrients for the Mind

We run around headless sometimes and wonder if this activity actually helps us in the long term. We become reactive to life's challenges and feel overwhelmed and run down.

Think of this in a different way an alternative perspective, imagine if this was just a hurdle like a track and field event, and this represents a hurdle. You just jump over it or it comes down. Simple. Then there is the next one, etc. Life can present us with such hurdles as these are the lessons in life, the insights we need to get so we can finish the race!

Through learning our minds grow just like getting nutrients from the experience, we grow and learn, jump through a hurdle, reflect, learn, grow and this pattern repeats itself in all facets of our lives.

Once changed our minds cannot go back to a former state, as we make new connections and new associations we are evolving. Becoming richer by the experience.

So if you are finding yourself in a mouse trap, going in circles, I invite you to visit us become a member book your first coaching session, and get you moving into a better place.

Follow your Nature

There are so many personality profile tests out there, to find out where we are on the spectrum. I remember doing my DISC profile a few weeks ago and knowing how my style has changed since becoming self-employed. Some people have done the Myers-Briggs and today I learnt about True Colours and that was very interesting.

The idea to this concept is to learn what you are dominantly and how to recognise other's colours so you can have more effective communication. Also learn which colour is your weakest and perhaps if you feel you need to balance them more to feel more in tune with work colleagues.

For me knowing I need to work on my lowest colour being orange (the spontaneous, fun, non-scheduled, me) was a good learning. It also made me realise that that is not my true nature so if my business grows it is obvious I need some people who are orange in my organisation. Otherwise all I have is structure, systems, ideas and brilliant customer service and still missing that last element.

All this is as I see it, is following your true nature, your own style. We are all different and have valid points, so we need all 4 perspectives to have true team work. Sure some colours prefer to work alone, so that is awareness for management on how to motivate them and keep them happy.

Great workshop, now I ponder about how to bring back the orange!

Non-Negotiables

I had a session with a new client, and this theme can be applied cross contextually. You see if we have a list of things that are non-negotiables like attracting the right partner, we too need to be fulfilling this list.

So if you want to be with a healthy, person and you have health challenges, then what will you attract? Even more importantly if you want a relationship yet hold back once you are in them what is the real message you are sending out?

Congruency is the key, be the person you want to attract, in all aspects if you want to find a wo/man who displays these traits yet you self sabotage, there are no surprises of who you will attract. See this as a mirror reflection of you.

It took me YEARS to figure this out, I was always infatuated with the wrong types and wondered what I did wrong. Obviously they were non-available and didn't possess all of my non-negotiables on my list, I was blind to the fact that I was getting the physical and this is my dominant love language , at the expense of everything else!

That is why they call it a LIST, it has more than one item on it, wow funny how I saw things back then.

So when you have a criteria then stick to it, live your life authentically and in your tune, sooner than later, you will attract another person vibrating at the same level.

Then watch magic happens!

New Learnings

Attended a seminar last night, and it was interesting to learn new terminology, it was about business and investments, Ok not my favorite subject, however I was interested nevertheless.

I heard from someone a while ago, when you submerge yourself in new terminology you gain more awareness especially in areas you are not usually focused in. This is true if you want to do well in that area, so I do want to increase my investments and become more finance-savvy. Makes sense to embrace the lingo and the mechanics (basic level at least)

So I learnt new vocabulary, doesn't seem as scary anymore, especially in the future when I hear these words spoken I will be more captured than my usual 'too hard, don't get it' frame of mind. Also I will be able to contribute and ask smarter questions.

There are new learnings everywhere, we just have to say YES from time to time to get out of our zone and learn new things, after all growth is one of our human needs. In fact when you are in this learning phase all sorts of things happen, opportunities come, people approach you and you are constantly guaging if this is a good move or not. Just remember if this is infact in alignment with your values and purpose.

Too many times people say YES out of fear of rejection and do it for the other person, or the flip side of this is to keep saying NO to the new experiences and not letting people in as they mistrust the world. Do it because you want to and that it serves you to do it, and it fits in with what is important to you.

I must admit I did doze off for about 20 minutes last night, maybe the new jargon hit the overwhelm button!